Asher's Thoughts
Dynamics
Ideas for systems to structure power exchange dynamics.
Safety Protocols
CONTENT WARNING: Safeword Removal Under Certian CircumstancesIdeas for systems to keep submissives safe in a power exchange dynamic.
Baby Brained Thoughts
Submissive and babybrained thoughts and ideas.
Rules and Regulations: A Rules System for TPE Dynamics
Rules and Regs: The SystemTPE Dynamics have two sets of rules.Rules: Decided by the owner only. Sub can make recommendations, but Owner has full control so long as Regulations aren't violated. These are the classic rules that a dominant sets and a submissive follows.Regulations: Must be agreed upon by all parties involved in the dynamic, these rules must be followed at all times for the dynamic to remain consensual, best reviewed on a regular basis.
My ThoughtsAs a little who is into Total Power Exchange, I want my Daddy to have full parental authority over me, I want no power, no authority and no say. While I can get the majority of the way there, I think it's safe to say that Total Power Exchange can never really exist safely, often when defining a TPE dynamic, the discussion is how much power the submissive gives up, and where the line is drawn.I want my Daddy's decisions to have power over me, I want his rules to be his decision, Daddy decides, Baby follows, that's how it should be, I need that structure and that control.I need a parent, I need an owner.But I also need to be safe and I need to be able to communicate my needs and my boundaries within this dynamic, Daddies (despite what they will tell you), are not mind readers. I need to be able to have input in the rules that govern how our dynamic will operate, and how we all stay safe.Rules and RegulationsOur dynamic will use two sets of rules, Daddy's "Rules" and Our "Regulations"."Rules" are the ones that most littles and submissives think about when the term comes up, these are the ones that Daddy sets, and the little follows, these could be for a number of reasons, rules for helping the little stay healthy or rules for making them feel more infantile or rules to keep them in their place. But under this system Daddy has all the decision making power when setting rules, so long as the regulations are followed."Regulations" are the rules set to ensure everyone in the dynamic remains safe and to determine how the dynamic will operate, following these rules is required for the dynamic to remain consensual. These would likely include the need for safewords or other safety protocols and the like.For example, our first regulation is that there must always a safety protocol active, and it most be followed. And hard limits must not be violated.While the dom has full control over the rules, regulations must be agreed upon by all parties involved.This system allows for a near total power exchange whilst ensuring that things remain consensual and that limits and consent can be communicated by everyone involved.
Traffic Lights: A Clear System for Communicating Consent
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When I'm talking with people online, and playing with people in person, I like to have a clear system that allows me to indicate my consent, many events and relationships use a classic traffic light system to do so.This system works well due to the non-binary nature of it, I can indicate when play needs to end and I need to be checked in with and cared for with a red light, but I can also indicate if the direction play is going in is making me uncomfortable with yellow.But I often get anxiety when talking to people due to the fact that I am autistic and sometimes struggle to see boundaries so often if I send something to someone, I might get anxious about if I have made them uncomfortable without intending to do so, in these situations, I'd also like to be able to prompt someone to use a traffic light and indicate whether they are feeling OK, getting a bit uncomfortable or need me to stop entirely.Also, I would like the system to be able to indicate when I cannot do something, even if I want to, this makes it clear that I am not refusing a decision or order out of disobedience, but because I'm simply not able to.My Traffic Light SystemWhen interacting with anyone online, I use traffic lights for indicating consent if either of us is unsure whether the other is comfy, they can say “traffic lights” or use the 🚦 emoji to request a check and the other must respond with “green light” (on its own) or 🟢 if they are comfy, “amber light” or “yellow light” (on its own) or 🟡 if they are getting uncomfortable and want the conversation to change direction but not stop or “red light” (on its own) or 🔴 if they need the conversation to stop, furthermore 🔵 or "blue light" to mean that whatever is being asked is not possible or feasible. These responses can also be used without being prompted to indicate a withdrawal of consent (i.e to safeword).The BenefitsA lot of people in this community, including myself* are autistic, one of the difficulties of being autistic is that both communicating, and recognising personal boundaries is more difficult having a clear system that indicates when a boundary has been crossed makes it a lot easier for me to keep the people I'm talking to in chats comfy, and for them to do the same for me.The non-binary nature of the system also means that play doesn't have to stop the moment you feel slightly uncomfortable, or worse, bottle up your discomfort so that play you're otherwise enjoying doesn't stop.The introduction of a Blue Light also allows for the indication of when something cannot be done, regardless of if the submissive wants it or not, due to the current situation the person is in, for those within Total Power Exchange relationships, often (not all) people find that the only reasons to not comply with decision or order is because it violates limits or because it cannot be done due to logistics or circumstances, as such, these traffic lights cover all reasons to not comply. Now when my Daddy makes a decision, I can either comply or traffic light, those are the two options.
A Coddled Baby: My Sexual Regression Toward Baby Innocence
I am a baby. I have known this for a long time, I was never a grownup, I was never a big boy, I never made it to toddlerhood, I thought I was 28 years old because thats how my body looks. I had convinced myself that I was independent, that I didn’t need anyone to provide care, comfort and safety. But I had actually just been masking, and deep down I always knew where I was headed.When I regress to infancy, I feel happier, safer, more relaxed, I feel like I have found my place, I am who I was meant to be. And I feel most content when I have authority over me someone to submit to, to make the decisions, someone who I can make smile just by obeying them and behaving for them, someone to praise me, someone to be proud of me and guide me when I stray.But one thing gets in the way of all of that, my big boy feelings (sexuality).The Harm of Making Goo Goos Like a Big Boy and Seeing Big Boy ThingsThe more I make goo goos like a big bou the more difficult it becomes to regress to my special baby place and the less frequently it happpens. The more I make goo goos like a big boy, the more I lose my submission to my superiors, the less smiles I make, the less pride they have and the less praise I get. The more I make goo goos like a big boy, the less energy I have for baby play.None of this is worth sacrificing for a few small seconds of pleasure. I’m simply too little to be making goo goos like big boys, and need to be protected from them by my carers.Also, seeing (or worse, participating in) big boy things (such as sex or pornography) hurts my regression and takes me out of my special baby place and I need to be protected from it, I’m far too little to see things like that.Coddled and CradledExtra tiny babies like me need to be protected from big boy things as much as possible. And have their lives wiped clean of icky big boy things.I will be protected from make goo goos like a big boy at all times, through hypnotic training, being kept safe in a nubby (chastity cage) at all times (and hands restrained when not) and through constant growup supervision.As someone with a prostate I’ll still need to make goo goos (ejaculate) but the only way that will happen is with Dadda’s help to ensure it all stays safe for me by milking my prostate to get out all my goo goos without accidentally making goo goos like a big boy.As I will be in a nubby (chastity cage) at all times in my nappies, I will need regular nubby cleanings to ensure everything stays healthy, these will likely become very stimulating for me so need to be done carefully and ensure that I’m properly restrained so I can’t hurt myself by making goo goos like a big boy.
Parental controls will be installed on my devices to ensure that I cannot access icky big boy things, Keeping my attention focused on more age appropriate content and allowing me to stay regressed. I will always be put to bed or otherwise be completely out of the picture when big boy time goes on.These measures will ensure I stay as babyish and regressed as possible bringing me smiles and giggles and keep me firmly at the bottem of the pecking order where I feel at home and can bring lots of smiles to my Daddy’s, and superior’s faces.I’m a coddled baby boy and a coddled baby, is a happy baby.
Naughty Steps: Nipping Behaviour in the Budd.
While I am proud of this system, it is yet untested, if you decide to use it, please procceed with caution and also contact me to let me know how it's going
Naughty Steps: The SystemPunishments follow 4 stages, at each stage, remind the little that they are still loved.Naughty Step - Little is placed on the naughty step for at least 5 min or till carer finishes what they were doing and has cooled down.Interrogate - Carer explains to little why they are being punished, only proceed when little can explain why they are being punished and how they can prevent punishment in the future.Punish - Carer carries out an appropriate punishment on the little, applying any modifiers and ensuring the little is safe at all times.Protect - Carer provides aftercare for little, only stopping once the little has returned to their emotional baseline, ensure that they feel loved and cared for and remind them that being naughty doesn't make them bad.Punishment ModifiersConfessing - If little comes clean before caregiver finds out, severity of punishment is halved.Lying - If little deliberately lies about what they did to get out of punishment, severity of punishment is doubled.Standing - If the little stands up from the naughty step, severity of punishment is doubled.
My ThoughtsAs a baby under a Daddy's authority, I have agreed to abide by Daddy's rules and to respect his authority over my life, however I know that I won't be able to do this if there are no consequences failing to behave for him. So I have asked Daddy to provide discipline should I break any rules or be disrespectful to Daddy.These aren't "fun-ishments", these punishments are genuine discipline that is designed to make me regret my choices and want to avoid them happening again, so that I can learn to be a good boy for my Daddy, exactly as I want to be.While in the rest of our dynamic, I am capable of traffic lighting should a limit of mine be crossed, being able to say two words that get me out of punishment means that I'll have the choice to face the consequences of my actions or not and defeats the idea of discipline for me.However, I do require a system to be in place to ensure that punishments are both effective and done in a way that protects my mental health, this is best done by ensuring that I am aware of why I am being punished, how I can avoid it in the future and that I am loved, even though I was naughty, so I created the NIPP system for punishment.NIPP Punishments1. Naughty Step - Put baby on the naughty step and use the time to cool off and finish anything you were doing, this ensures you are punishing with a level head and that the baby has time to think about what they’ve done. Ensure that you remind them that they are loved but there are consequences to being naughty.2. Interrogate - While still seated on the naughty step, ask the little to explain happened in their own words, and why they are being punished, and what they can do to prevent it from happening again in the future. Only proceed if they can answer all these questions correctly, they are not allowed to leave the naughty step until correct answers are given.3. Punish - Punish the little in a safe manor using an appropriate punishment.4. Protect - Provide aftercare, ensure the little feels loved, safe and calm before ending the Punishment Process.Punishment ModifiersConfessing - If little comes clean before caregiver finds out, severity of punishment is halved.Lying - If little deliberately lies about what they did to get out of punishment, severity of punishment is doubled.Standing - If the little stands up from the naughty step, severity of punishment is doubled.